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I know you’re tired and doing your best.

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Let's make the sweetest bedtime memories.

Let's make the sweetest bedtime memories.

Welcome to Because of Bebé

I’m so glad you’re here!

This stage of life is beautiful, yet one of the hardest things you will ever do. Your heart melts when they smile for the first time. When they wrap their chubby little arms around your neck with the tightest squeeze. You can’t even believe they didn’t exist a short while ago. Nothing prepares you for those heaven sent moments.

But you know what we’re also unprepared for? The in-between moments. The confusing, exhausting, overwhelming and desperate moments. From navigating sleep, postpartum, breastfeeding, childcare to returning to work, it’s no wonder we sometimes find ourselves daydreaming of life before parenthood.

And then we’re told …

“He should be sleeping through the night by now”

“You need to supplement, you’re not making enough milk”

“She needs to learn to self soothe”

“They just cry for a few nights. It’s hard, but worth it”

“You need to follow a strict EAT, PLAY, SLEEP schedule”

“You’ve been breastfeeding for too long”

“Sleep training was the best thing we ever did”

And it’s everywhere - Baby Boomer grandparents, friends with kids, friends with no kids, pediatricians, coworkers and even social media influencers, everyone has an opinion or solution they swear by.

Yet, amongst all the noise, you never hear: ‘How was baby’s birth?’ ‘Tell me about your toddler’s personality.’ ‘Besides sleep, what else could improve?’ ‘Is breastfeeding painful?’ Or ‘What shape are your nipples in after a feed?’ All of which, when assessing sleep and breastfeeding challenges, unlock certain pieces of the puzzle.

Unfortunately, popular traditional sleep training methods, like Cry It Out (CIO), Ferber and Pick-up/Put-down, ignore the causes, in its one-size fits all approach. Leaving to chance, that they just vanish away on their own, or worse, require repeated sleep training intervention. For instance, an inefficient latch or formula choice which impacts their overall comfort, a low iron count that makes sleep restless or an undiscovered sensory input that tells their nervous system to relax at bedtime. These are just a few examples of sleep disturbances that sleep training will never remedy..

I believe as parents, we always want to do what’s best for our child: to get to the root cause, to seek multiple opinions, to try an array of possible solutions, and sleep should be no different. You have the answers, but you may just need help navigating to the right solution, and that’s where Because of Bebé comes in!

So, how is this different than sleep training?

Parent-Child Led Sleep Changes

At Because of Bebé we are experts in the physical and emotional development of your child, lactation, common and unique sleep disruptors, sleep optimization, the importance of the parent-child relationship, sensory needs, attachment theory and more. All while understanding and respecting the pressure and demands of life, as well as your innate intuition as a parent.

We work with you to discover the sweet spot between: what is developmentally appropriate for your child and your goals as the caregiver. We will never prescribe a solution that can be Googled. Each one of our clients has a unique roadmap toward more rest and less stress, and we help you make changes to achieve that goal.

This is NOT: controlled crying, cry it out (CIO), Ferber, the Chair Method, separation, premature weaning, strict schedules, going against your gut or having you suffer until it gets better.

Sleep Training

Sleep training is a behavior modification to solve an array of sleep problems. The general concept is that baby will be put down for bed, they will cry, parent either does not respond or limits their response, and then baby stops signaling and sleeps through the night. Typical methods suggest crying, separation, withdrawal, cutting night feeds and time-interval check-ins. Sleep training can also be referred to as ‘gentle’ or ‘responsive’ and has recently been rebranded as ‘sleep learning.’

Sleep training is NOT: a schedule, a bedtime routine, moving them to their own room or transitioning to a toddler bed, sleep associations or providing comfort and love with no restrictions.

Kind words from parents like you …

  • “With Maryam’s support and empowerment, we created a schedule that works for our family, learned about who our child is and what we could expect developmentally during the first year. Finally, we were all happy and rested! The best part? No guilt and no tears!”

    Cara

  • “Maryam is made for helping new parents! We were struggling with our daughter’s preference for ‘just mama’ at bedtime. Maryam took a very warm, personal and holistic approach to our goals. Mama now has some much-appreciated evening time while Dad does the bedtime routine. No tears, no frustration. If you’re feeling the pull to make a change, Maryam is your woman!”

    Sorayya

  • “Maryam helped make the impossible happen - weaning my boob obsessed toddler. I was convinced nothing would help, or there would be tears and tantrums, but I was pleasantly surprised, just like she said. An unexpected bonus - he finally slept through the night too.”

    Julie

  • “Shortly after we began working with Maryam, our 1.5 year old daughter went from needing to be walked around to fall asleep, to falling asleep in her crib independently at bedtime and for naps! Maryam’s comforting and understanding presence was so appreciated She walked us through everything and let us do things at our own pace. She is such a valued resource and I highly recommend working with her!”

    Natalie

  • “Maryam was so comforting and able to see our family holistically. She was able to address what each had going on individually, which seemed unrelated to sleep, but ended up being a huge part of things. Maryam was perfect!”

    Lena

 

Services

 

Assurance Call

A one time call to ask any questions you’d like about your child’s sleep! Receive expert advice and a personalized plan to help you get started.

Weaning Support

One on one weaning support that helps you achieve your goals - it never has to be all or nothing! Take as much or as little time as you need, with an expert by your side.

Mini Consult

For the family that would like an expert sleep and parenting coach at their fingertips for one year. Four, 1 hour Zoom or phone calls to use whenever you’d like!

Full Consult

One month of unlimited calls, check-in and email support to address the most complex sleep issues, with multiple goals. This is perfect for the family that would prefer constant support and encouragement.

 

Courses and Guides

Check back soon for all the tips and tricks for independent sleep, breastfeeding and more!

From the Blog 

 

I’m Maryam - Your new BFF and forever Big Sis

I’m an aerospace engineer (what?!), turned certified pediatric sleep specialist and breasting educator. Most importantly, I’m a mom of two, who are wildly different when it comes to sleep, temperament … really everything. I’ve been in the trenches of motherhood, while being a stay at home mom (SAHM), or working for a Fortune 500 company (remote and full time in the office) or starting my own business. There is no one that understands all of life’s challenges, and the importance of being well rested and enjoying parenthood.

I have helped thousands of parents navigate early wakes, bedtime battles, parental preference, weaning, dropped naps and diagnosed sleep interruptors.

And what do all of these parents have in common now? They look forward to bedtime and are finally able to enjoy a show and their favorite late night snack, without a little human next to them!

 

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